Saturday, January 23, 2010


For the first time in a LONG time, I have a significant amount of cash left over after paying bills this week (thanks to a nice little bonus on this week's paycheck) and a full tank of gas.........and yet I have nowhere to go, and no one to do anything with. FML.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

Birthday Dress?

I know; it's not until April, but a girl has to start planning early for these things right? This is an ASOS version of the Alexander Wang dress that was spotted on many celebrities last year, including Rihanna:
I'm usually not a fan of knock-offs, but the ASOS dress is pretty damn close to the real thing. Besides, a nigga is on a budget, and a $795 dress is not part of it.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

MAYBE I'm Overreacting. Maybe.

As anyone that knows me can attest, I have many pet peeves. When I moved to Atlanta, I discovered a new one, and that is: people who suggest that we hang out/kick it, then expect ME to make all of the plans and/or put all of the effort into going out with them.

A prime example would be what happened just this weekend. A friend of mine had been out of town over the holidays, but we sent a couple messages back and forth over Facebook and she told me that she would be returning this week and suggested that we "get together." I'm always up for going out so it was cool with me. I told her to call or text me when she got here and we could figure out some places to go (the keyword being "we"). She said that maybe we could go out Friday or Saturday night. I work late on Friday nights but I figured Saturday should be fine.

She sent me a text Friday night saying that she didn't think it would be the best night to go out because she didn't think anyone would be "there." I'm not sure exactly where "there" is, but I told her that Fridays are no good for me anyway, so we could just find some place to go on Saturday. She proceeded to say that she is broke right now, so she would prefer to go to a club where we could get in free. I told her I'm broke too, so that was fine with me and that I would try to find some places. Maybe I set myself up for this by offering to do research on a club we could go to, but I don't think I implied that SHE couldn't look for somewhere to go as well. I mean, if we both want to go out, then we should both put in effort to find a spot to go to, right?

Well anyway, I look for some events on Facebook and there really ain't shit popping this weekend from what I can tell. I find a club that says "Capricorns are free all night" but doesn't mention if or how much everyone else has to pay, and some other club that doesn't specify whether or not there is a cover charge. I know how Atlanta clubs (especially the black ones) play games about the pricing of admission, and I'm really not in the mood--or financial position--to be wasting time and gas based on some ambiguous party fliers.

Then she texts me today (Saturday) asking if I found anything. I tell her what I found and ask if she has heard of anything. She says she hasn't, and that she knows we will end up having to pay if we go the first club that I mentioned which she can't afford, and asks if I have been to the other club before. I tell her I haven't, but I heard it was cool. She responds saying that maybe we should wait until we know "for sure" that we will get in free and that maybe we can go somewhere tomorrow, or if I hear of anything else happening tonight to let her know. I'm a little annoyed by now, and rather than respond with a text that will clearly display my annoyance (since I'm not very good at hiding it), I opt to not reply at all.

Okay. So maybe the situation itself is not the problem. Maybe it is just the history that I have had with this person. We had tentatively planned to be roommates last year (along with another friend of hers) when neither of us knew where the hell we would be living, and although it seemed that it would be a team effort in the beginning, I eventually got the feeling that I was the one who would be responsible for all of the apartment hunting. We had a deadline, and she was constantly saying "we need to find a place ASAP," while making excuses that she was cramping up from her period so she couldn't go out to look anywhere and having unrealistic restrictions on the price range of the apartment that we should stay in. She somehow thought that we would be able to find a "nice" three-bedroom apartment in Buckhead for $900. Anyone who lives in Atlanta knows that finding anything in that area within that price range will be more close to a roach-infested crackhouse. Needless to say, we ended up not moving in together, and even though my current housing situation has come with its own issues, I am relieved that I made the decision to stay where I am now.

I also know that when it comes to us going out to party, I am usually the one that has to extend myself financially as well. I call myself trying to be the "cool" person, but I get the feeling that I'm being used and I don't like that. The night usually results in me driving 30+ minutes from my house to pick my friend up (even though she has a car), me providing liquor (which I don't ask to be given money for), me driving to different clubs in the event that our first choice doesn't work out, then dropping her off and driving 30+ minutes back to my house (and usually not receiving any gas money). Some people may say I'm stupid for doing all this, but I hate the people who refuse to do any favors for someone unless they are compensated financially. I don't mind picking people up or buying the drinks, because I remember when I didn't have a car and I was broke, and people picked up the slack for me. But when I feel as if you EXPECT it from me? When you make comments like "I'm broke" or "I don't have gas" as if to say that I have money coming out of my ass? That's when I get an attitude. I don't have any more money than anyone else, but I do what I can with what I have and I don't feel that I should have to be the event planner, chauffeur, bartender, or whatever else just to go out with friends.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010


Around this time last year, an acquaintance and I started up a fashion/lifestyle blog. This is when I really got into the whole blogging scene and I would spend hours on the Internet perusing other fashion blogs for inspiration/confirmation that we were on the right track as far as current fashion trends in Atlanta, as well as around the country.

I stumbled across a blog called LateBoots that was run by two young fashion connoisseurs; one in Atlanta and the other in New York. From reading just a few entries, I was instantly hooked and made it a part of my daily routine to go to LateBoots for my fashion fix. Even after the blog that I shared with my acquaintance fell through (a story that I won't get into), I still looked to LateBoots to get a feel for the "cool" restaurants, clubs, and boutiques to go to in Atlanta and New York.

Then the unthinkable happened. The creators announced that there would be a brief hiatus on the blog to reconstruct the site. Needless to say, I was crushed. I checked back on the blog from time to time for new entries but never saw one. Eventually I (reluctantly) removed LateBoots from my daily blogging regimen.

Fast forward to now. I was doing my usual Web browsing and for some reason, decided to check back in on LateBoots. Lo and behold, there was a link to the new website. I eagerly began to look through the new posts and noticed an entry from earlier today seeking interns for LateBoots. Needless to say, I was fucking amped. I have been wanting to get a fashion/magazine/public relations internship in Atlanta ever since I moved down here, but with all the craziness that went on during my first semester, finding an internship took a backseat to simply trying to survive.

So now I'm nervous as hell. I feel a little rusty as far as being up on the latest trends. I can't even remember the last time I bought a new pair of shoes or even a freakin' t-shirt. What am I going to put on my resume? I'm kicking myself now for being so anti-social while I was attending Clark Atlanta University that I opted not to participate in any of the campus fashion shows/events. I know I have to come with my A-game or risk being laughed right out of the LateBoots creators' inbox.

It's a new year though, so fuck it. I mean, this is the first time that I checked that blog in months and this opportunity just so happened to be on there....that can't just be a coincidence. Can it?

Monday, January 4, 2010

Achieved One Of My Goals So Far.

The one about not procrastinating/waiting on other people to do things. I have been wanting to see "The Princess and the Frog" for a while now, and my roommates said they wanted to see it too. We looked up showtimes on the internet tonight and the latest were at 9:45 and 10:10. I knew that both of these were far too early for people like my roommates, since it was already after 8:30 and it takes them about 3 hours just to make a decision about anything, and another 3 hours to get off their asses and actually DO it.

Then they checked their bank accounts to see how much damage they had done on their New Year's trip to Indiana. After subtracting a few bills and holds from the numerous bars/clubs that they went to, they moaned about how broke they are now. Now I KNEW they wouldn't be going to see any movies tonight. However, in spite of my own brokeness, I had just enough cash to go see the movie. Besides, I have been in the house all weekend and I didn't feel like sitting in my room while they recuperate from their hangovers/exhaustion/poorness.

So I got dressed and headed out to the theater. It felt weird as hell going to a movie by myself, but I survived. If anyone ever bullshits about going out somewhere again, I won't hesitate to do the same thing. I'm definitely beginning to understand and appreciate that old folks' saying that "One monkey (or two, or three.....) don't stop no show." By the way, I thought "The Princess and the Frog" was a cute movie. Don't know what all that "racial controversy" bullshit was about.

Friday, January 1, 2010

Let's See How I Do In 2010.

A friend sent me a Facebook message of goals she achieved last year and goals to achieve this year, then asked what mine were. I thought it was interesting, and I didn't make any resolutions this year because I think those are kind of lame and never last long. So here are mine:

Goals for 2010

1. Get back in school
2. SAVE money instead of spending it
3. Get my own apartment
4. Join the Navy *possibility*
5. Keep at least $500 in my checking account (goes along with saving)
6. Learn Italian
7. Stop procrastinating/waiting on other people to do things
8. Get another Blackberry (and not lose it!)
9. Go to New York Times Square for New Year's. Tired of being bored every year.
10. Pay off most (if not all) of my credit cards
11. Work more on writing/my blog

Accomplishments in 2009

1. Got a JOB
2. Got a car
3. Went to Puerto Rico
4. Removed some toxic "friends" from my life
5. Volunteered for the Garner Circle
6. Kept my standards up as far as guys
7. Started blogging again

There it is. Now it's been documented in cyberspace, and I can look back on this next year to see if I actually accomplish any of these lol.