So I went to see Takers for its opening weekend. Although I knew the theater would be packed with loud and rowdy middle/high-school aged kids, I braved the crowd so I could be front row and center to see my husband. (The movie was awesome, by the way. I don't want to give away too many details for those that haven't seen it, but I don't understand why they always gotta do my baby like that.) This post was inspired by what I witnessed while waiting in line at the concession stand.
A group of kids were in front of us, and two boys who looked to be about 12 or 13 stood out to me. One of them had what seems to be the mandatory faux-hawk for pre-adolescent boys, and was wearing a plaid shirt, skinny jeans, and whatever the latest sneakers are for that age. The other wore a similar get-up, except he had on a purple t-shirt and shoes to match. After they had gathered all of their snacks, each one sashayed by with more sugar in his step than RuPaul, Miss J, and Andre Leon Talley mixed into one big bowl of glitter-liciousness. Yes, I'm making up words and shit.
For some reason, this disturbed me. Anyone who knows me can attest that I am very liberal and I have no problem with homosexuals. For a long period of time, most of my friends were either gay or bisexual. My problem is when pre-teen boys are playing the role of "queen" before they even understand what it means.
This brings me to my next question: What's going on with their parents? I know when I was 12, I didn't have the money to buy my own clothes, and whenever I did go shopping, my mom was right there with me. Any clothing item I attempted to choose that my mother deemed inappropriate for my age, quickly went right back on the rack I picked it up from. Maybe that's not the case with parents nowadays; maybe they just throw some cash at their kids and send them to the mall. I don't know. What I would like to know is what could be going through a parent's mind, where they would allow their child to dress and act a certain way at such a young age.
I have heard the debate that some people are "born gay." This could be true. I haven't researched it, and I don't claim to be an expert on the topic, so I won't make any arguments for or against that theory. If I were a parent and my eight-year-old told me he/she was gay, I'm not sure what my reaction would be. However, I think no matter what may be going on in a child's life, until the age of eighteen, it's still a child. In my mind, there is nothing okay about a young boy wearing midriff tops and lip gloss, nor is it okay for a little girl to rock a buzz cut and baggy cargo pants in an attempt to look like a "stud."
Now I will turn this question over to everyone else. If you're a parent (and even if you're not; feel free to answer from a hypothetical standpoint), would you allow your pre-teen to dress and/or behave in a manner stereotypical of the opposite sex?